Wednesday, February 19, 2025

Nurse Dorothea Presents: Why Coping Skills Work and What Are Some That Can Be Done Anytime and Anywhere

 


Mental health for teenagers and young adults, but older adults are saying they are learning new things too.


 

We are starting the process of removing stigma about mental health issues. Let’s share ideas of the journey to well-being and seek to understand others as they are instead of how we wish them to be. By learning to know ourselves and trying different coping skills that are specific to the situation that we find ourselves in, we can achieve balance and peace. As we deepen our self-awareness and harness tailored coping mechanisms for diverse situations, we pave the path to equilibrium and serenity. Let’s foster an environment conducive to both individual and collective growth within our society. By doing this, we unlock potentials previously unattainable, empowering us to fully cultivate our knowledge, skills, and abilities. With gratitude in our heart, peace in our mind, and confidence in our capabilities, we can face the future with bravery, courage, and determination to help make the best lives for ourselves and others that we possibly can. If society wants something we have never had, we’re going to have to do something that has never been done.

Nurse Dorothea Presents Why Coping Skills Work and What Are Some That Can Be Done Anytime and Anywhere is available at Lulu.



Book Excerpt

“Hi everyone, my name is Nurse Dorothea. Thank you for coming to the after-school club on mental health. I hope to provide you with some tools to manage your emotions and navigate life’s challenges.Mental health is complicated because there are so many things that can affect it. This class was created to show that it is ok to talk about your mental health with others as well as to give you ideas to improve your mental health.

“We will be recording this session. People in the future will get to experience the same things you will today. Sometimes, I will speak to people watching this showor reading the future book about the class. This is an interactive class and I want you all to ask questions as you have them. We will stop sometimes and discuss things with each other. If you are watching the show or reading the book, then I want YOUall to also discuss the questions and topics with those in the room. This book is an experience, and you will only get the full experience by talking with others. Please take breaks from the show as you need to since this will be a long discussion.”

– Excerpted from Nurse Dorothea Presents Why Coping Skills Work and What are Some That Can Be Done Anytime and Anywhere by Michael Dow, Dow Creative Enterprises, 2024. Reprinted with permission. 




About the Author
 

Michael is the Founder and Manager of Dow Creative Enterprises, LLC.  His books have garnered the Silver Nautilus Book award in 2020 (Nurse Florence, Help I’m Bleeding) and an Award-Winning Finalist in the Religion category for the 2021 International Book Awards (A Prayer to Our Father in the Heavens: Possibly the Greatest Jewish Prayer of All Time).  Michael believes we will need the best of science and religion to successfully navigate ourselves, our civilization, through the future obstacles we will face.  More information can be found at www.DowCreativeEnterprises.com and www.NurseFlorence.org.  Nurse Florence® is a federally registered trademark by Dow Creative Enterprises.  The Nurse Florence® series seeks to promote science and health among children and to help increase the health literacy levels of our society.  With teamwork, inclusion, faith and perseverance, we can bravely face our problems and help each other reach our better selves as well as our best collective good.

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Friday, January 24, 2025

Book Spotlight: The Golden Deficit by Joni Parker


 Unexpected solutions to unanticipated problems with the Golden Harvest.

 


Title: The Golden Deficit: Book 3 of the Golden Harvest Series

Lady Alex, the Elfin Keeper of the Keys for the Council of Elders, begins an epic adventure when she returns to the magical land of Eledon. The final talley of the Golden Harvest is in, and it’s far from the hundred million gold knots required. As if that wasn’t bad enough, the deficit is even larger, caused by the deceitful Rock Elves. These cunning creatures have been paying other Elves with fake gold knots for years, and no one had a clue until now. The Mentors demand the Elves pay the five million knot deficit in ninety days, but no one has any gold left. The pressure is on, and everyone is at a loss for how to come up with the gold, until Lady Alex devises a brilliant plan. But it will require equipment and expertise the Elves don’t have, and time is running out. Can she gather what she needs and save Eledon from financial ruin before it’s too late?

The Golden Deficit is available at Amazon at https://amazon.com/dp/B0DL6G4GB2.

 


Book Excerpt

This sucked! I came home expecting a warm welcome, but instead, I’ve been chewed out twice. Or was it three times? I should have kept score, but I had no idea what I was walking into. I had returned to Eledon because my mortal boss in Paris, Étienne, a world renown fashion designer, went into the hospital for a ruptured appendix. He had delayed treatment because he had top billing during fashion week in Paris, and it consumed him. We worked extra-long hours to get the clothes done in time, and the results were brilliant. Although he could have died, he didn’t, but when he was taken to the hospital, all work in the design studio came to a screeching-ass halt although I had to finish up some photoshoots for a magazine spread. Work won’t start up again until Étienne gets back at the end of March. So, I came home to Eledon.  

Eledon was the home of the Elves, and was given to us by our Mentors when we were forced to leave Earth. I was part Elf and mortal, well, mostly mortal. My father was a mortal man from a place in outer space called Oltria, and my mother was the daughter of a Water Elf and a Titan. I hardly remembered them since they died when I was four. When I grew up, I lived with my mortal foster parents until I turned sixteen. Then I moved in with my Elfin grandmother, Lady Lestin of the Water Elves. Talk about a culture shock. I’m still learning about Elves. 

– Excerpted from The Golden Deficit by Joni Parker, Joni Parker, 2024. Reprinted with permission.

About the Author
 

Joni Parker was born in Chicago, Illinois, but moved to Japan with her family when she was 8, so her father could achieve his dream of becoming a pro golfer. Upon return, her family moved to Phoenix, Arizona where Joni graduated from Camelback High School. After a short stint at Arizona State University, she joined the U.S. Navy. After 22 years of military service, she retired and traveled the country with her husband in their RV until he passed away. Joni went back to work for the federal government for another 7 years until she could retire and devote her time to writing. She currently lives in Tucson, Arizona with her sister.   

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Tuesday, January 21, 2025

Kill Your Darlings by Jim Naremore, author of American Still Life




We are all drowning, and we are all saviors.

Wresting with addiction, guilt, and self-loathing, gifted photojournalist Skade Felsdottir finds herself trapped in a web of her own creation when she is forced by circumstances to return to her hometown—the place that holds her crippling secrets. After screwing up her “big break”, a photo essay book about descansos—roadside memorials to people who have died tragically, Skade tries to salvage the project against a tight deadline. While simultaneously working and keeping her darkest demons at bay, Skade reconnects with an old boyfriend and befriends a unique but broken young woman named Kit. Their burgeoning friendship begins a process of healing for them both, until a devastating sequence of events plunges Skade into darkness, leaving her to decide between redemption and running away; between life and death. Set against a backdrop of the back roads of a forgotten America, American Still Life explores the crossroads of grief and artistic expression, of loneliness and atonement. A journey familiar.

 

Kill Your Darlings

 There is a famous bit of writerly wisdom that invariably elicits some form of fear or recoil (including scoffs and defensiveness, which are just fear in wolf’s clothing) in all writers, both experienced and new: “Kill your darlings.” This advice to all writers is often misunderstood or confused in some way, even its attribution is cloudy; it is most often attributed to William Faulkner, but the actual quote is “Murder your darlings” (even more bloodthirsty!) and was originally used by the English writer Arthur Quiller-Couch in 1916 (either in a book he wrote called On the Art of Writing, or in a lecture to Cambridge University students, even that is unclear!). But beyond who actually said it, what does it really mean to us writers working today, and why is it such good advice (or is it actually good advice)?

Let me begin by saying the same thing I say to every novel writing class I ever lead: There are no rules. As such, feel free to ignore anything anyone has said to you about how to write. Art is art is art. The second thing I always say, fast on the heels of that anarchy, is: There are also a million rules, and the better you know them, the better off you’ll be. Both of those statements are true, and they are not actually mutually exclusive. The better you know the infrastructure of the art, the easier and better you will be able to create something interesting and meaningful, and the more appropriately you will be able to not follow the rules (if that makes sense).

Kill (or murder) your darlings, while it is a bit of an over-generalization to get to a pithy turn-of-phrase, is aimed at making sure everything you write is fully in service to your story. In every book there is a primary story line and sometimes a few sub-story lines, which themselves need to in someway support the primary line. It’s easy as a writer to get offline and start writing material that strays farther and farther from pushing the story forward. A lot of times this takes the form of what I call “Process Writing”. Process writing is the writing we do to find our way into a scene or a chapter. Usually, it’s either lots and lots of description (of the room, of the weather, of a character, etc.) or it’s a huge stream of interiority telling us what a character is thinking and remembering and feeling and wondering and hoping and worrying and speculating, and on and on. I do both (the description thing is my special problem) to get my mind into the mood of the scene or trying to find that little bit of propulsive traction I need to get the scene rolling. Process writing is like warming up or clearing your throat on the page. Sometimes you get some amazing descriptions or thought lines that lead to other things and soon you’re skipping down a side path away from your story. As beautiful and meaningful as these wonderful bits of writing are, if they are not pushing the story forward, they need to come out (killed darlings).

Another type of darling can come later, when you really start to know your characters and they start talking to you about what they might think or want to do. You love them and enjoy spending time with them, so you indulge them some of these desires. You begin to create entire scenes centering around a character, a place, or an event that you enjoy playing with and before you know it you’ve got whole chapters, beautiful, enjoyable, that have little or nothing to do with the story you are actually trying to tell. In both my novels (The Arts of Legerdemain as Taught by Ghosts and American Still Life) I reached a point where I removed entire chapters entirely from the manuscript for this very reason (as a side note, if you can actually do that: remove an entire scene or chapter and the story still makes perfect sense and nothing is lost in the story flow, you did the right thing. That’s a perfect clue you had a darling that needed murdering). For me, one of the surest clues I’m writing something I might need to take out is when I start getting cute with my voice, I start stretching my language to the poetic or the extreme end of lyrical.

Rules for darling killers. First and most important… NEVER kill anything, darling or otherwise, until late in the editing process! I cannot stress this enough. Your job as you are generating your first (rough, working, whatever you call it) draft is to just write, just create, it’s all good and valuable. Never cut anything until you flip into that editorial-mode. You don’t do that until you’ve got the end done on the first draft. Only then are you allowed to hunt darlings. Second, NEVER throw anything away! Just because it doesn’t belong in this story doesn’t mean its not great writing and that you might be able to use it in another story sometime. I’m still holding onto lines I wrote ten years ago waiting to use them in the perfect spot. And the two chapters I edited out of the two novels both became stand-alone short stories and were (or will be) published in lit journals (which is another clue they were darlings. If they can stand on their own two feet, let them.) Third, darlings can hide. They most often like to hide behind “Character development” or “Mood creation” … watch those things. Less is more! I still go back and forth about the chapter I removed from American Still Life. I liked it and saw its value. My editor felt differently. I caved. Was it a darling? Yes… Did it need killing? I’m still not sure. But the book worked.

Remember, the most important thing you are doing is telling a story. The story’s the thing (to paraphrase Shakespeare). Get your story across. The story always should win. And also remember, you get to keep a LOT of darlings across a nice tight eighty-to-one hundred-thousand-word manuscript. Good writing is good story telling. There’s a lot of ways to do that. Find yours!

 


About the Author

With roots in the American deep south and the Midwest grounding his sense of place, Jim Naremore has published an array of short fiction and the award-winning novel The Arts of Legerdemain as Taught by Ghosts (Belle Lutte, 2016). He holds an MFA from the Solstice program at Lasell University in Boston and currently lives with his partner and cat in New York’s Hudson River Valley.

You can find the author at: https://www.jim-naremore.com/